Need some motivation this morning?
Start your Friday out by getting it done. And if things go wrong, throw on some Queen B, give yourself a dance party...and handle it.
I know that I talk a lot about the weight I have lost with beachbody. We all hear and see ALOT of focus on people's physical transformation and I just wanted to remind you today that its also about how we feel.
I went to my first conference last year with beachbody and I remember feeling so nervous about being surrounded by all those "fitness freaks" and "beach bodies". I honestly almost didn't go because i was not feeling like i belonged there. I wasn't to my goal. I hadn't reached my "ideal" weight. I still was on my journey and i felt embarrased Well, I can tell you my experience... I was surrounded by people of all shapes and sizes with huge hearts ❤ and a drive and passion to help others. It was so incredible to be surrounded by people that were just proud of their journey and happy to be there. There was no "ideal" person. The one thing we all had in common is we made it our job to help others live healthy lives!
I remember crying at one point because fear had almost got me to quit. To give up. And to be honest, i probably would have if I hadn't been working on my inside transformation this whole time. This company has taught me to be a strong confident person. I love this company and what they stand for - people, health, the inner journey....
As i am getting ready to go to Punta Cana in less than a month, I am not fighting those same fears and feelings anymore. Which is huge. Im not gonna lie, I am still working on becoming my best self...but not for comparing or anything like that. I just want to feel my best. <3 And that isn't a size or weight or anything. Its just me, rocking my swimsuit and enjoying the beach with my friends. It shows me how much I have grown over this last year. I have no desire to try and create some rockhard body because I'm going to a resort with all these amazing coaches.
What I want is to be my most confident self and keep the focus on being soooo grateful for this trip I've been given and that i get to enjoy it with some of my closest friends.
So, on that note, I am off to find the perfect suit....and Im not even dreading it!
This morning while I was downloading all my important "stuff" off my dying computer onto a hard drive. I noticed the date of this picture...12 years to the day.
It really does seem like yesterday. I can so clearly see that afternoon in my mind. And all I keep thinking when I look at this..is I remember being annoyed at Simon for messing up my folded laundry AFTER i had already told him no...all because he was trying to make Sophie laugh.
I used to hate the advice from people about "enjoy every moment" and "the days are long but the years are short". "Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory"
Now, i have become THAT mom. I tell people all the time these same words. And its only because my heart breaks to think of all the times that I didnt enjoy the little things. That i was more bothered and annoyed at them tugging at me or climbing on me when i was trying to do something. Or just always being under foot when i was doing really important things...like cleaning, laundry...just stuff.
My kids are 15 & 12 (almost 13) now. And i am desperate to spend any time they will give me. Simon is busy with school, football and friends. Sophie is already at her friends houses anytime she can be. So, I am really trying to be present with them while i still have time.
Here are a few things Im working on...maybe something will jump out at you:
~Get unplugged – turn off your phone, or the computer, or the television just for a little while. No matter how useful they are, trechnology will distract us from being present with our children. Who, by the way, will notice when we are distracted.
~Stop with the "to do list"- realize that what you have accomplished so far is good enough for today. Instead of focusing on getting it all done go and enjoy some time with your children. I must confess as a recovering perfectionist I continue to struggle to put this idea into practice.
~Take the time to really notice your children while they are still with you.- Listen to them when they talk. Really listen. Notice the personalites, the things they love to do. I am trying so hard to ask about their days and really care. If they are talking to me...its important enough to them to share. I try to pop in their rooms while they are "busy"...they might seem annoyed, but the days i don't, Sophie will come out and ask why i haven't checked on her. #heartmelts
~You won't remember it all.-If you enjoy writing use a journal to create a record of your days with your children. Write about the special moments you have with your children; record the funny and insightful things they say; describe the way they looked. One day these journal entries will hold a treasure trove of memories both for you and your children. I used to think..i will never forget such and such...sadly...I am wishing i would have taken the time to write them down.
It is not too late, we can slow down our days and learn how to treasure the precious moments we have with our kids. Its not always easy to change how we do things...but, if its important to us, we will figure it out.
I dont show myself love all the time. I would NEVER talk to others the way i talk to myself. I don't have much patience for myself. And I don't have enough grace for myself. I am super critical and not very kind.
"Treat yourself how you want others to treat THEMSELVES."
I love this so much more than "treat others the way you want to be treated" Because i put up with a lot of stuff I would never want others to deal with.
This is what self-love means to me today. It all starts with us.
If we want others to be kind to each other than we have to lead by example. If we want our daughters to love their bodies than we need to lead by example. If we want others to be happy and loving life, we have to lead by example.
We need to do it ourselves.
Love yourself today. If that is hard for you...start small. You do it each day, it will get easier.
I'm writing this because I'm tired of your attempts to sideline me by trying to terrorize me into doubting myself. It seems my whole life you've been lurking around the corner, in the shadows. When I was a kid you told me there were monsters in my closet. In high school, it was a whole new set of lies designed to make me hate myself. You were unrelenting in college as I actually accepted your lies and thought harming my body was the only way to be skinny.
I hate you.
And now, as a wife, mom, example to my daughter and leader of other women, I finally see you for what you really are: a fraud that only wins because I let you. You have no real power over me because all your strength stems from deception. I've wasted too much time and energy trying to fight you and it feels so amazingly liberating to be free from you. You're not some monster or god; you're a cowardly bully and I've had enough. You are just so pathetic.
I win because I accept, embrace, and love who I am. Every part of me -physical, mental, emotional, spiritual- is phenomenal and I reject every lie you advance. I will not fail because every day I wake up is a victory. I will not give up because I have all I need within me. I might stumble along the way and there will be tough days when I feel you creeping in but that's just a part of life and I don't have to give in. You no longer cripple me and you can try as hard as you want...
But, I win.
On that note, i have to go finish my coffee,
Im a 44 year old Mom taking charge of her health and who's passionate about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life.