Life is built around expectations and memories and sometimes it's up to us to adjust both if we want to avoid driving ourselves crazy. I just spent the last three days relaxing with my family in a resort that we went to QUITE few years ago, when my kids were younger and life was simpler. We dropped a decent chunk of change to enjoy the Memorial Day weekend. (thanks to Beachbody ;-) ) Things didn't really go according to plan. But that's life, right?
My husband and I booked a room and made arrangements to do some things that were awesome a few years ago, when our kids weren't on the verge of being 10th and 8th graders. We quickly discovered that family vacations are going to be different from this point on. We got off to a rocky start because our kids have changed so much and we sort of expected them to enjoy something they had outgrown through no fault of their own. It was awkward and my first thought was, "Are you freaking kidding me, why can't you be grateful?"
My expectations were based on memories and if we wanted to have any sort of fun it was my husband and I who had to adjust. It's difficult watching your kids grow up right in front of you and no matter how badly you want to keep and protect them from all the grown up worries you deal with, you know it's only a matter of time before they move on and start families of their own. I will always have my memories but now they are centered around conversations and interaction and not telling the kids what to do and monitoring their every movement. And it's hard but amazing.
The weekend ended up going well and we still did some goofy things and laughed and just kicked back. But life is changing and now I see my kids for who they were, who they are are, and who they can become. They will always be my "kids" and no matter how tall my son gets or how my daughter continues to grow, I will still see pigtails and floaty armbands in the pool. But now I appreciate well-thought out conversation and hearing their thoughts on life. They don't cling to me but their sideways hugs mean the world because I know they are choosing to do it.
We swam and went to the movies and had some great food but the greatest moments came on the balcony, just talking and enjoying the blazing heat. Or preparing lunch in our room while creating food combinations that should not ever be duplicated. It was these times... Riding the gondola up the mountain was wonderful but it was the conversations that reminded me how amazing my kids are. We all adjusted and had a good time.
Yeah, this Memorial Day didn't go according to plan but I wouldn't trade it for anything.
To all you beautiful people:
-Stop doubting your self worth.
-Stop telling yourself you can't.
-Stop letting someone else's opinion define you.
-Start loving yourself.
-Start telling yourself you can and you WILL!
-Start realizing you are enough.
Being a people pleaser, for years I let other peoples' opinions of me define my value. I allowed my self limiting beliefs define who I was. I told myself I wasn't good enough, I had nothing to offer, and that I couldn't do this or do that...so that is exactly what I did...NOTHING!
It wasn't until I felt like I was completely hopeless that I realized I was tired of feeling that way. I was tired of watching other people live life. I was tired of feel stuck. I wanted to be the hero in my own life. I wanted to save me.
It is CRAZY how horrible we talk to ourselves. Think about the negative things you tell yourself. Would you ever allow that to fly to someone you care about? Would you stand by and let someone say things to people you LOVE like that? Would you say things like that to anyone? Would you tell them they are fat, or no good, or not worthy, or that they aren't capable? Would you tell them to quit trying because they will NEVER do it?
You would encourage and support them. You would tell them to dream and know that anything is possible. You want them to know how much they are truly loved and valued and you would fight anyone who tries to tell them differently. Right? That is exactly what you need to do for yourself.
Do me a favor.. write down 3 positive affirmations to tell yourself each day; once when you first wake up and once before you go to bed each day. Spend just a few minutes each day telling yourself these things. But the clincher here is that you need to say them and BELIEVE THEM. You have to truly try to believe them. It might be hard at first, but it will get easier.
To be honest, this whole "love yourself" thing was a little uncomfortable for me at first. I would tell myself positive things I didn't really "feel" yet. But over time, something magical happened...I started to BELIEVE! And belief in yourself is pretty incredible. It can change your mindset, your attitude, your day. It can change your life.
My hope is that all you beautiful people can learn to love yourself. As much as your loved ones do.
Share this with a loved one who needs a reminder of how special they are.
BE KIND WITH HOW YOU SPEAK TO YOURSELF...BECAUSE, YOU ARE LISTENING.
This morning, Beachbody CEO Carl Diakeler made official what a lot of us coaches have been speculating about for a little while now. Beachbody is coming to the United Kingdom! The obesity epidemic isn’t limited to North America. 26% of the United Kingdom is obese. So many people that need a helping hand on their fitness journey.
What does this mean to all our friends over in the UK? If you are into fitness and reside in England, Wales, Scotland, and/or Northern Ireland (as well as Canada, US, and Puerto Rico of course) our team will now be able to serve you as well with our great programs from Shaun T, Autumn Calabrese, Tony Horton, Chalene Johnson, Sagi Kalev, and others. Once we officially launch, you’ll be able to enroll with me as your coach, or be mentored by me as you build you OWN Beachbody business!
Become one of the FIRST Team Beachbody Coaches in the UK!
TeamBeachbody has been in the MLM market for 10 years and are now ready to welcome our friends across the pond! What does it mean to be a Team Beachbody Coach? It means earning income while you help yourself and others live healthier, more fulfilling lives. It’s being passionate about helping to end the trend of obesity in this country. All by doing what you love—staying fit and healthy, while inspiring others to do the same.
Whether you’re already a “product of the product”—someone who’s found success through one of our world-class fitness solutions or products or whether you were inspired by watching a friend or family member transform their lives the same way, becoming a Coach will reward you in ways you never thought possible—physically, personally, and financially.
So, until this happens, i will be having a Facebook group set up for all who are interested in learning more and getting updates as they unfold.. Just fill out this form for your own personal invitation:
Happy Mothers Day.
Cool... A whole day dedicated just for the pampering and preservation of the institution of American motherhood. A wonderful 24-hour cycle to celebrate the sacrifice of moms from all different walks of life. A blessed time to honor and reflect on all that mothers do in their many roles. Here's to you moms out there..Happy Mother's Day!
Take some time for yourself and look back at all the accomplishments you've experienced during the past year. Life as a mom moves rapidly and most days sneak up on us and are over before we realize how much we impacted all those around us... Spouses, kids, parents, siblings... We wear so many different hats during the course of the day that we need our own rack attached to our shoulders! Its easy to focus on the things we don't get done or let fall through the cracks (that don't seemingly seem to bother dads on Father's Day...hmmm) but no one is perfect and being a mom means moving on from chaos to chaos and beauty to beauty. Be proud of yourself and a great thing to do from now on... Keep this attitude throughout the year and not just today.
If you have a mom in your life (biological or otherwise), be sure to thank here for the things she's done for you. Not for perfection because no mom is perfect. But throw some praise her way because she cares for you and did her best. She was there when you needed her and if she wasn't maybe that inspired you to be a better mom. Don't let today slip away without thanking her for helping you become the person you are today.
So, from one mom to all the others out there sipping coffee or eating krispy Kreme for breakfast or having brunch or smelling flowers... Happy Mother's Day. Thank you for all you do and all you will do. The packed school lunches, the overtime at the office, the listening ear, and the incredible advice you offer.
Enjoy today because you've earned it!
I am actually sitting on my porch in the sun and it's not even 10am. Experiencing warmth in Montana is a special commodity so I don't take it for granted, especially since last week it was chilly and rainy. So, while I do feel reinvigorated, I also realize that there is a difference between resting and recharging and slacking. We all need ways to find peace and serenity before we launch ourselves into the chaos known as daily life. And right now the sun is smiling down on me, giving me what I need before I head off into my Saturday.
In the week since I've returned from Punta Cana, I have been taking part in a really intensive training program aimed at helping me grow my business. Every day, I have a huge list of things to accomplish.
I understood that getting back into the swing of things after my vacation meant that I couldn't get apathetic and simply coast on what I had been doing. I wanted to challenge myself but challenges come in all shapes and sizes and the package I am currently unwrapping is both demanding and rewarding. Right now I am spending so many hours of my day stretching myself in areas I've never even knew existed, let alone developed. A year or two ago I would have said I am out of my comfort zone but now I realize I am the one who dictates what I am capable of and there is nothing I can't accomplish in regards to this business if I dedicate myself to it.
I am thrilled to be a week into this process because I feel like I can be a true example that we need to be proactive and not set goals that are safe and easy just so we can tell everyone else we reached them. That is playing it safe and that is not what this is about. I will share my journey during the next few weeks so you can see what is happening and how things are going.
...But right now I just want a few more moments in the sun!
Im a 44 year old Mom taking charge of her health and who's passionate about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life.