I dont show myself love all the time. I would NEVER talk to others the way i talk to myself. I don't have much patience for myself. And I don't have enough grace for myself. I am super critical and not very kind.
"Treat yourself how you want others to treat THEMSELVES."
I love this so much more than "treat others the way you want to be treated" Because i put up with a lot of stuff I would never want others to deal with.
This is what self-love means to me today. It all starts with us.
If we want others to be kind to each other than we have to lead by example. If we want our daughters to love their bodies than we need to lead by example. If we want others to be happy and loving life, we have to lead by example.
We need to do it ourselves.
Love yourself today. If that is hard for you...start small. You do it each day, it will get easier.
I'm writing this because I'm tired of your attempts to sideline me by trying to terrorize me into doubting myself. It seems my whole life you've been lurking around the corner, in the shadows. When I was a kid you told me there were monsters in my closet. In high school, it was a whole new set of lies designed to make me hate myself. You were unrelenting in college as I actually accepted your lies and thought harming my body was the only way to be skinny.
I hate you.
And now, as a wife, mom, example to my daughter and leader of other women, I finally see you for what you really are: a fraud that only wins because I let you. You have no real power over me because all your strength stems from deception. I've wasted too much time and energy trying to fight you and it feels so amazingly liberating to be free from you. You're not some monster or god; you're a cowardly bully and I've had enough. You are just so pathetic.
I win because I accept, embrace, and love who I am. Every part of me -physical, mental, emotional, spiritual- is phenomenal and I reject every lie you advance. I will not fail because every day I wake up is a victory. I will not give up because I have all I need within me. I might stumble along the way and there will be tough days when I feel you creeping in but that's just a part of life and I don't have to give in. You no longer cripple me and you can try as hard as you want...
But, I win.
On that note, i have to go finish my coffee,
Im a 44 year old Mom taking charge of her health and who's passionate about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life.