I am getting down to the last couple weeks of training for this race. And everyday that gets closer, i find it harder and harder to get myself out for a run....especially the middle of the week runs. And that is funny because they are less miles than i do on the weekends...so, i know i can do it. What is my problem? Its not that my body is too sore to go or that the arthritis in my hips is giving me too many problems…it really is a struggle in my mind.
It is hard to say why we stand in our own way, but we do. And the worst part about it is that we often don’t realize we are doing it. I think for me..i think i am so afraid of failing that i would rather not try. I would rather not give it all i have…to miss the mark. I do this in so many areas of my life. I did it in jr. high with the volleyball tryouts. I did it applying for college. I did it when applying for a promotion and i have done it my whole life with my weightloss goals. And today…I’m doing it with this race.
Self awareness is the key. Whenever you think you might be holding yourself back, try and avoid sabotaging yourself and your dreams:
Here are some things that help me and might help you:
1. Recognize it.
Look at the big picture. If you are working toward a specific goal, evaluate whether or not there are true obstacles standing in your way or if you are letting fear of the unknown stop you. Are you just afraid of putting yourself out there for something and not getting the results you’d like?
2. Stop focusing on the negatives.
Take a time out. Look at the goals you’ve already reached and think about the things you can change to get you closer to where you’d like to be. If you get stuck, remember that sometimes things take time. Look for inspiration. Don’t give up. Keep trying.
3. Be confident in who you are and what you have already accomplished.
Acknowledge your strengths. Write them down, make a list. Pull out that list any time you need a reminder of how wonderful and capable you are.
4. Don’t let the fear of failure conquer you.
Lets be honest, failing sucks. But we’ve all done it. Don’t let the fear of failing be your reason for not even trying. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and give it a shot. Even if you fail, you will have learned something.
5. Don’t beat yourself up.
Take a deep breath. You don’t have to be perfect all the time. Or any of the time, really. Give yourself room to grow, to breathe.
6. Be a leader in your life.
Be responsible for your own life. Know that you are in control. It is way too easy to blame other people for the things we are unsatisfied with.
It can be hard to admit that we may be responsible for those things that are making us miserable. You are the only person who can change your life. The inspiration can be external but the action is all you.
7. Be honest with yourself.
We all get stuck from time to time so don’t be afraid to admit to yourself when things aren’t working. Stop running away from it. The moment you sit down and admit there is a problem, will be the moment you start to work through it.
9. Be flexible in your methods.
Sometimes in our forward movement, we realize we need to make a lateral move – or change courses completely. This isn’t failure to change your mind. Give yourself this space.
10. Practice is key.
Everything worth having in life takes time and effort. But all that blood, sweat and tears is more than worth it once you get there. There is no shame and working hard....with practicing.
Every time you try, you grow.
Win or lose, pass or fail you’ll come out a better version of yourself.
Get out of the way and let yourself through!
During my long run this morning, I had a few hours to think. To think about the meaning of life, why I chose to run this or that distance on purpose, why my daughter snuggles up close to me after she has already devoured her dinner staring at mine because how in the world could she still be hungry, and how I live where most people vacation. One of my thoughts that stuck out to me more than the rest was the fact that in running as in life, everything is relative.
2 things that I can’t stop thinking about:
Your journey is your own.
A few years ago when i was training for my first marathon, I ran a lot of races during training. I used to get so mad at those people—yeah, you know who they are—those people who torment you silently, running back to the start line after they have finished the race you still have not finished. I used to look at these people with contempt and wonder why they would want to run more than the required miles in the first place, and also, why they would parade in front of people who clearly didn’t have a fast bone in their body! They aren’t jerks. They aren’t showing off or being arrogant. What they probably are doing is taking advantage of a marked course, the opportunity to get a longer run in with (maybe) some faster running. Or, they might be sooo awesome that they are encouraging & supporting a fellow runner who hasn’t finished yet. Everyone has their own journey, so quit judging. Quit looking around and comparing. Just run your race…the best you can, with everything you can.
Everything is relative.
I have learned an important thing to remember is that everything is relative. What a long run to you may seem impossible for someone else and vice-versa. Or a workout you might not even sweat in…might need to be motified by someone else. Let’s always keep in mind that everyone has different goals, methods to achieve those goals and most importantly—that we are not all at the same place in our journeys. Enjoy your own journey. Push yourself if you want. Support and encourage one another no matter where we are and do not get discouraged by people who run longer, are faster, are more experienced or who can lift more weights or do the whole workout without stopping. It doesn’t matter what anyone else does. All we need to worry about is taking the first step to start and then the next step and the next…
Just do you <3
Im a 43 year old Mom taking charge of her health and who's passionate about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life.