I am getting down to the last couple weeks of training for this race. And everyday that gets closer, i find it harder and harder to get myself out for a run....especially the middle of the week runs. And that is funny because they are less miles than i do on the weekends...so, i know i can do it. What is my problem? Its not that my body is too sore to go or that the arthritis in my hips is giving me too many problems…it really is a struggle in my mind.
It is hard to say why we stand in our own way, but we do. And the worst part about it is that we often don’t realize we are doing it. I think for me..i think i am so afraid of failing that i would rather not try. I would rather not give it all i have…to miss the mark. I do this in so many areas of my life. I did it in jr. high with the volleyball tryouts. I did it applying for college. I did it when applying for a promotion and i have done it my whole life with my weightloss goals. And today…I’m doing it with this race.
Self awareness is the key. Whenever you think you might be holding yourself back, try and avoid sabotaging yourself and your dreams:
Here are some things that help me and might help you:
1. Recognize it.
Look at the big picture. If you are working toward a specific goal, evaluate whether or not there are true obstacles standing in your way or if you are letting fear of the unknown stop you. Are you just afraid of putting yourself out there for something and not getting the results you’d like?
2. Stop focusing on the negatives.
Take a time out. Look at the goals you’ve already reached and think about the things you can change to get you closer to where you’d like to be. If you get stuck, remember that sometimes things take time. Look for inspiration. Don’t give up. Keep trying.
3. Be confident in who you are and what you have already accomplished.
Acknowledge your strengths. Write them down, make a list. Pull out that list any time you need a reminder of how wonderful and capable you are.
4. Don’t let the fear of failure conquer you.
Lets be honest, failing sucks. But we’ve all done it. Don’t let the fear of failing be your reason for not even trying. Push yourself out of your comfort zone and give it a shot. Even if you fail, you will have learned something.
5. Don’t beat yourself up.
Take a deep breath. You don’t have to be perfect all the time. Or any of the time, really. Give yourself room to grow, to breathe.
6. Be a leader in your life.
Be responsible for your own life. Know that you are in control. It is way too easy to blame other people for the things we are unsatisfied with.
It can be hard to admit that we may be responsible for those things that are making us miserable. You are the only person who can change your life. The inspiration can be external but the action is all you.
7. Be honest with yourself.
We all get stuck from time to time so don’t be afraid to admit to yourself when things aren’t working. Stop running away from it. The moment you sit down and admit there is a problem, will be the moment you start to work through it.
9. Be flexible in your methods.
Sometimes in our forward movement, we realize we need to make a lateral move – or change courses completely. This isn’t failure to change your mind. Give yourself this space.
10. Practice is key.
Everything worth having in life takes time and effort. But all that blood, sweat and tears is more than worth it once you get there. There is no shame and working hard....with practicing.
Every time you try, you grow.
Win or lose, pass or fail you’ll come out a better version of yourself.
Get out of the way and let yourself through!
Im a 44 year old Mom taking charge of her health and who's passionate about helping you live your healthiest, happiest life.